I had to love him flaws and all, the same way he loved me. Where you once expected agreement and compliance from your partner, you’ll do better and feel better to practice love and acceptance. The glue to any successful marriage would be to accept your husband or wife as he/she is. What you see is what you get, nothing more, nothing less. Jan. 29, 2017. Do not choose only one part, take me as I am, whole and such as I am, so you don’t make any mistakes. By Sandra Rose. Accept their flaws. When you start to get frustrated with your spouse check in with your thoughts. They may also be able to help you to learn to manage the feelings you may have about your partner’s behaviors. You serve your spouse by how you accept your spouse at every … If they work do you accept the fact their job might not be high paying? To accept their idiosyncrasies as a part of their, and your, life. And if you did, you might be divorced already! Well, no. Accept that you cannot fix your partner. I see so many people talk about being the breadwinner, or the SAHM. Accept the things you cannot change. Essentially, accepting your partner for who and what they are is a choice that frees you both to enjoy each other fully and feel good about yourselves. I know that this is a revolutionary idea, but within this suggestion lays the seeds of peace and harmony. The only alternative to the typically fruitless hope of getting one’s partner to change, is to simply accept that they’re never going to. Accept that just because they don't behave like you, it doesn't make them wrong. Accept your partner for who they are. Reevaluate the seriousness of your partner's flaws. Accepting others for who they are, and not for who you would like them to be, is an important step in forging healthy relationships full of mutual respect and realistic expectations. ... One of the girls has been dating a guy for a while, but now all they ever do is fight. Accept love as they are able to give it to you. 1. And so, the #1 thing spouses can do to build healthy, lasting marriage, is to love and accept your spouse the way they are. You Have To Accept Your Partner's Flaws In A Relationship. A professional may be able to help you learn how to accept a situation. Here are seven steps to acceptance: 1. Síguenos / Follow us! Accept that you love them. Accept that not everyone will behave as you do. Wanting your spouse to change is like asking a cat to bark. Here are some tips for becoming more accepting. And it can help you accept yourself for who you are at the same time. In a relationship, it means accepting your partner for who they are. For instance, if you've learned throughout the years that your partner has a habit of being late, accept it. I am what I am. If you are having difficulty accepting your partner for who they, consider consulting with a therapist. Watch your expectations. 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